![]() Ryan: You know, privacy is good in those senses, but not hiding anything. Ryan: Well, I mean, privacy is you’re granted a certain level of individual maybe autonomy… How do I say this? I’m thinking of like you’re going to the bathroom. Privacy, how would you define that in marriage? ![]() You know, we do talk a lot about privacy versus secrecy in past episodes and why there really is no secrecy in marriage. Why are you all of a sudden feeling the need to change your passcode? Did one of our kids find it and now is like purchased many things on your phone? You know, what is the reason? Selena: Well, if it’s not a normal practice for us to not know each other’s, right, our past codes or whatever, then I would obviously I’d jump to conclusions. What would you think if all of a sudden you want to get on my phone, take a picture, do something, look at it…? You know my pin number past code, everything, since day one. Why was it not known by her husband, right? The question is why was the passcode changed? So let’s begin with the phone was locked. So, again, as we walk through some of these issues, and things that are kind of listed out in this email, we’re not trying to accuse Aaron is the person who wrote this in, but we’re trying to ask some questions to hopefully shed some light for you our viewers, as well as our listeners and also encourage Aaron, I think, later on. I think it’s sad but hopeful because there is a lot happening but there’s a desire for reconciliation, at least from what we’re reading here. I want us to rebuild our marriage and then recommit ourselves to one another. I love my wife, and she says she loves me, but how do we move forward? How can I let God move my heart to fully forgive and trust her again? These guys that she has spoken to seem like they want a relationship with her but sex is all I get out of the messages I’ve read. To this day, while I’ve tried to move past it, I still struggle with trust and the fear that it may happen again. I told her I wanted his number blocked for us to communicate, for us to do whatever we had to do to get our marriage back on track. For some reason, I walked back into that hospital room, forgave her, and continued to take care of her. I left to take a walk and stood at the front of the hospital wanting to just end it all, heartbroken. While I know that she hadn’t met up with this guy, the text messages were enough, and here I was taking care of her in the hospital while she was talking to him. This wasn’t the first time this had happened. I tried her watch and it unlocked and I found text messages of an inappropriate nature between her and another man. I was wrong but I tried unlocking her phone and noticed that she had changed her passcode. And while in the hospital, I heard her phone constantly going off while she was sleeping. “So I recently was in the hospital with my wife. We’re saying, “Okay, this is a good jumping-off point for a conversation about this. So we’re not saying that he did these things, or he didn’t do these things, or why didn’t he do these things? We’re not accusing him. We’re asking questions from this email that he sent us just for the benefit of viewers and listeners. And as we kind of go through some of the bulleted points after we read the text or the email that he sent us, we’re not trying to shift blame or question his situation. But it has to do with text messaging other people. ![]() We’re gonna read it to you, and then we’ll unpack it, and we’ll process through it together. It’s a rather long question that was written in by a gentleman. We don’t create families but we help others build families for the glory of Christ. It’s all under this banner of fierce families, which for us is an effort to create families or to build families for the glory of Christ. We are the proprietors of all things fierce: Fierce Marriage, we have the Fierce Parenting Podcast if you’ve not checked that one out, we have videos on YouTube under the Fierce Family. Ryan: First of all, thank you for joining us. We’re gonna share that with you on the other side. ![]() So I’m thankful for this couple who wrote him with this question. Ryan: And I think there’s something for all of us to learn. It’s a heartbreaking thing to consider but I think there’s hope in the heartbreak. Today we’re talking about, in another sense, the dangers of DMs on your phone, your text messaging, because we have a question from a viewer, a listener that deals directly with this. Go back and check that out if that piques your interest. And DMs are nothing more than basically a private virtual space where you can have conversations with other people. Ryan: A few weeks back, we did an episode called The Dangers of DMs. ![]()
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